friends... ♡

friends are a funny thing. it used to be so simple. back when we were in elementary school and essentially anybody in our classroom or anybody on the playground was our friend. our best friend was the person you sat with everyday and shared your lunch with on the picnic tables. friendships were based solely on who's class you were in or if you sat at the same table in art class. your biggest problem would be who got the last piece of chocolate or who got to use the pink crayon first. it was all so simple. until one day, it all changed.

somehow... things change so fast for everybody, yet we never really seem to see it happen. until one day, you look around, and you realize you're not really where you belong at all. you begin to see that the girl you shared your lunch with or the girl who sat at your art table is more obsessed with herself than the friendship you once shared. you begin to see that the girl you thought was your best friend you no longer have a thing in common with.

and you begin to see that sometimes, in life, the people who will change your life the most, who will inspire you to be a better person, who will bring you happiness and love and excitement and wonder and passion... may be found in the strangest ways.

for example, my best friend. i met her on november twenty seventh, 2014. ive known her for only a little over a month and yet somehow, in the craziest and most beautiful way, i care more about her than i do for anybody. i may have only met her because of our shared passion for one direction and music and instagram... and i may have met her over the internet... and she may live 2,410 miles away from me... but she's the most beautiful best friend i could have ever asked for.

and so, i guess what i'm trying to say is that it's ok to not be like the rest of the people in this world, or like the rest of the people you know. it's taken me time but by now i've finally realized that having the biggest friend group at school or having the coolest friends isn't important. it's not about anything like that. it's about having that one (( or two or three or four)) people or person who you genuinely love and care about. whether they live 2,000 miles away or if they go to your school... you deserve a person who brings you happiness and love and confidence and makes you excited to start another day. you deserve a person who makes you feel thankful to be alive.

so, from me to you... i guess i just wanted to let you know. that you deserve happiness. you deserve love. you deserve the feeling of being loved and loving somebody so much you can't wait to wake up every morning. whether that's a boyfriend or a girlfriend or a best friend. so, if you don't have that person i have a bit of advice for you...

step one:

clear out all of those unnecessary people. anybody who makes you frustrated or annoyed or sad. don't let those negative people into your life. those people who always have to make a comment about everything, those people that view everything negatively. forget about them. they're toxic. they're only going to cause you pain and sadness.

step two:

figure out who you truly care about. try to brainstorm the list in your head or write a list on a piece of paper. write down any name that comes to mind that you truly want in your life and you truly never want to leave your side. whether the list is one person long or twenty people long... that doesn't matter. as long as every person on that list is a good friend to you and is important to you.

step three:

it may not apply to you... but if you truly feel that there's nobody in your life who deserves a spot on that list 100%... don't let them on. instead... find somebody who does. join a team. join a club. go outside. find an internet friend. (( i'll be your friend !!!! )) in a world filled with billions of people, there's somebody meant for you, i promise. you just have to look a bit harder sometimes. but i promise, if you truly find the right person, it'll all be worth it.

step four:

let these people know how much they mean to you (( often !!! )) text them before bed once in a while to remind them that you love them. send them letters in the mail and write to them explaining how important they are. simply just show them that they are loved and appreciated. not because you have to in order to keep their friendship, but because you want them to know how special they are to you.


well... i hope this helped in some way or another... if anything i hope it was relatable in some way. i just want you to know that each one of you deserves a best friend who you genuinely love and care for and who genuinely makes you happy. no, friendships aren't perfect. but the best ones are always worth it.

if any of you ever want to talk, im always here.

lots of love,

x pia lucy